Should You Poke, Kick, Or Prod? How To Handle A Snoring Husband

Posted on: 11 June 2015

If your spouse is keeping you up at night due to snoring, it can be difficult on a marriage, and it is usually most difficult on the one that is not snoring. Below are some tips on how to handle the snoring so you can get some much-needed sleep.

Sleep Apnea

Before you do anything, your spouse should see a doctor, as there may be a medical reason why they are snoring. Your spouse may have sleep apnea, which is a disorder in which someone has shallow breaths or pauses while breathing when asleep. The pause in breathing can happen many times during the night, and in many cases, the person will make a loud snoring sound.

Sleep apnea has been linked with heart disease and stroke, so seeing your doctor is important for your spouse's health. There is sleep apnea treatment that will allow you and your spouse to sleep peacefully again. One common treatment is using a CPAP (continuous positive airway pressure) machine.

Separate Bedrooms

If your doctor gives your spouse the all clear, you may want to consider sleeping in separate bedrooms if you have the room. You do not have to do this every night, as your spouse likely does not snore every single night. Start out in bed together until you both fall asleep, and then if you are woken up, go to the other bedroom. You could also go to bed together, and go to the separate bedroom before you go to sleep if your spouse tends to snore every single night.


Many snorers will snore if they sleep on their back. This is because the muscles of the throat and tongue relax, and if on the back they will slump backwards and block part of the airway, which leads to snoring. Your spouse will likely stop snoring if you get them to roll over on their stomach or side.

Instead of pushing, kicking, prodding, or elbowing your spouse, reach over and tickle them on the back of the neck or somewhere else on their body.  This will make them change their breathing patterns, and to roll over on their stomach or side. They may roll back onto their back later in the night, but you may be asleep by then, and will not hear the snoring.

You can also try snore strips, which you can purchase at most drug stores. While you are there, pick up a pair of earplugs.